I have worked in addiction now for 15 years.  I am certainly no expert and not a physician so I will explain from my experiences and knowledge garnered from my clients over the years.  This Dis-Ease is insidious!  It eats at your physical body as well as your emotional, mental, spiritual, financial, familial, professional, and personal states.  We know that addiction can be genetic, and that it can start out as social use and progress to dependence.  What drives this? It is driven by fears!

Who is a person if they are not associated with this dis-ease?  What if they don’t like themselves when they are clean and sober?  Taking that personal inventory is the hardest step.  Being brutally honest about oneself and their behaviour is painful.  And pain is one of the reasons that people use/drink/gamble/work/act out sexually in the first place.  It takes great strength and courage to overcome the pain and stick with the process.

Addiction is a ripple effect and it is selfish.  The person who is addicted makes a decision to deal with their “stuff” in unhealthy ways, but the effect of that behaviour snakes through families, friends, employment, recreation, and spiritual worlds.  Others may start to live in fear!  Fear that you may die, that you may leave, that you may destroy their foundation, that you may bankrupt them emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

The people that are associated with someone who has addictions are not typically your friends.  They are someone you use with, party with, have sex with, gamble with, act out with.  It is a pretty empty contact base someone has when they decide to get clean/sober/balanced because those “friends” will not be there.  You are no longer any use to them so they need to move on to others of like mind.  This leaves you scrambling to try and repair your world; to find balance in it again.

There are many avenues available to support you as you clean up your life.  There are several types of step groups: Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), 16 Steps for women. There are SMART Recovery (non-step based), your spiritual networks, friends, family, professionals who are readily open to assist you on your journey to wellness.


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I believe that any illness is manifesting what is happening for you right now at this very moment you are sick.  The best book I have seen on the subject if by Louise L. Hay called “Heal Your Body”.  In it she explains how our mental anguish causes our physical anguish (my interpretation).

I had four different operations to remove cysts from my bladder.  What was that all about?  Looking back at an abusive relationship made me realize that I had held a lot inside and was afraid to “let go”.  I was afraid to get angry so I internalize a lot of it.  I was “pissed” off at myself for not standing up and I was “pissed” off at him for being controlling, abusive, and manipulative.  Of course when I finally left that relationship I never had another bladder operation again.  If only I knew then what I know now!

During that same time period I have cysts and a large tumour removed from my left breast.  So I understand that female breasts are designed to nourish/feed and I believe because it was by my heart that once again, I was undernourished, underfed in self-worth, love, and esteem.  Those symptoms have not reoccurred either since I left that relationship.

How often have you used the phrase, “s/he makes me sick to my stomach”?  I will bet you that you actually feel physically sick to your stomach.  Look at your network of people and find who that person is and then deal with them.

Headaches are usually manifested by not speaking your truth; keeping things inside your head.  Passivity definitely leads to headaches.  Speak your say in a good healthy way and stop the insanity of headaches.  There is so much good information out there on how to effectively communicate.  I have two posted on YOUTUBE at and

Sore shoulders, neck, back?  What weight are you carrying around that is not yours to keep?  What responsibility have you taken on that is so heavy you physically hurt?  Look at your life and the people in it.  Who isn’t taking responsibility for their life, for their decisions, and for their behaviour?  Why did you decide to step in and be the gate keeper of that person’s choices?  You can’t fix someone else because  you didn’t break them in the first place.

I believe if we look at our symptoms we can do the mental work to rid ourselves of the dis-eases. As Louise L. Hays states, you can have the physical symptoms removed but if you don’t do the mental work those symptoms will just reoccur.

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Seniors are our history

Another seniors program has their funding cut.  This program served seniors who were isolated; it provided them with socializing and an opportunity to connect.  I don’t understand how a government cannot afford the $70,000 to help those who are our history.  This program shutting down after 18 years has pushed me to do my first blog. Other countries don’t treat their elders this way; they live together and help each other as one unit. It amazes me that as a North American society we value sports over our seniors.  Sports players make millions of dollars and we push the biggest wealth we have aside.  The message appears to be that seniors aren’t worth $70,000.  That is so wrong.  I am thankful that my mother, her sister, and their life long friend, each wrote a book about growing up on Annacis Island.  I don’t have the same knowledge of my father’s side of the family and that is a shame.  Our histories are so important in going forward and we lose a little each time we shut a senior out.  I miss my parents every day and am thankful for the stories that I do know and share with my grandkids.

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