Don’t Change yourself; Change Partners

I have once too often heard that a person broke up with them and was told, “it isn’t you, it’s me”.  First it is a phrase that makes most cringe.  Thanks for taking the responsibility of the relationship not working out, but why not look at yourself and find out what causes you to go from relationship to relationship?  Secondly, when you decide that the relationship is over you change partners instead of yourself.

Relationships are not supposed to be a trampoline for you to bounce from one person to another.  Relationships are meant to be trusting, caring, and every growing.  Yes I understand that some relationships are meant to be a season and not forever, but that does not give anyone the excuse to keep their bad behaviour and just move it to someone else.

You must take responsibility for your actions.  Look deep inside yourself and ask yourself the tough questions.  What keeps going wrong?  What type of person do you typically fall for or choose?  What baggage do you continue to drag around with you from one to another?  Who are you looking for?  What are the negative thoughts you bring into each relationship?  Once you can answer all these questions and change them, you will actually be ready for a real grown up relationship.

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About rjfroms

I am a woman! I am strong and vulnerable! I am happy and embrace life! I am you!
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